Hello, I’m Kyla. Guess what? I’ve decided to partner up with my lovely friend Meagan (read her bio here) and try to write a blog. Yep, that’s right: I’ve never done anything like this before. But hey, I love to write (though I’ve always been too hesitant and self-doubting in my adult life to share my writing until now) and that’s what this whole blog is supposed to be about: taking on new challenges to re-discover what creates joy in my life and to be authentically me.
So, what is there to know about me? Well, first of all I have a family. I have a loving, quirky and complicated family, consisting of both blood relatives and dear friends, many of whom live a province away. Thus, I have necessarily become skilled in long-distance relationships, but that’s a topic for another day… I live in Calgary, Alberta with my hilarious, and somewhat inappropriate, husband (cue my reproachful-yet-amused voice here: “Nathan!”) and our darling little boy Sonny.
As a new-ish mom (Sonny was born in June 2012), I work both in and outside the home. Inside the home my work is… well, you know what we parents are like, we basically never stop… and outside in the ‘real world’ (yes, those quotation marks are there for a reason) I work as a clinical social worker. I have been a social worker for just about 10 years now, and I still don’t know what to expect when I start the workday (which, admittedly is one of my favourite things about my profession). In just shy of a decade, I’ve helped women and children find safety from abuse at a women’s shelter, worked with families in the downtown eastside of Vancouver to face their addictions and try to make a better life for their children, coordinated services for children with disabilities in the UK, offered grief support for women and couples who endured pregnancy loss, provided decision-making counseling and support to women faced with unplanned pregnancies, and more recently worked therapeutically with children, adolescents and families who are struggling with mental health difficulties. (Oh, so that’s why I’m tired!)
Also, I care about the world. Plain and simple. Ask my parents and they will tell you that I’ve been this way since… well, since my beginning really. My greatest passion is our planet. Over my 32 years I’ve been dismissively called it all: an idealist, a tree-hugger, a dreamer, uninformed. But, I keep trying in my own little ways. Yet, despite (or arguably because of) my desire for a better world, I get inordinately caught up in the “yuck” of human existence – ie. think oil spills, think the tragic demise of the garment workers in Bangladesh, think bullying. Paradoxically, I also find myself getting consumed in the ‘shoulds’ of western society as well. You know, I want what other people seemingly have: a perfectly stylish and maintained home, a ‘balanced’ life, the ‘right’ shoes.
A bit of a quandary isn’t it? Well, that’s the reason I’m trying out this whole blogging thing. Maybe I’ll find some sort of equilibrium. Or, at the very least, I’ll have a charmingly self-depricating story to tell at a dinner party. So, I humbly invite you to take this journey with me. Maybe you will want to try some of the challenges too; maybe you won’t. That’s fine. Just please, pretty please, at least read some of my entries?